Is it the question itself or the person who asked the question that annoys you? The answer is actually neither. We have the power to control our feelings about the questions and people around us. Imagine we have a drawer of cards in our head; each card has an emotion written on it. When we interact with people, we have complete control of what card to pick from the drawer. In other words, no matter who we are interacting with or what questions we are dealing with, we can always choose the happy card if we want.